Trust Issues? Let’s Talk About It.
Trust. It’s one of those things we all need, deeply crave, and yet it can feel harder to maintain than a can feel harder to maintain than a group text without drama..
So, what is trust, really?
Trust is the belief that someone (or something) will show up with honesty, reliability, and care. It’s foundational in every kind of relationship: romantic, professional, platonic, and yes, even the one you have with yourself.
🌱 Why Trust Matters
Trust is the glue that holds connection together. Without it:
Relationships feel unsafe or unstable.
Communication becomes guarded.
Vulnerability gets replaced with suspicion.
And let’s face it—everything becomes exhausting.
According to Brené Brown (2015), trust isn’t just a grand gesture—it’s built in small, consistent moments over time. It's those little acts that whisper, "You're safe with me."
💔 When Trust Breaks: What Healing Looks Like
Healing from a breach of trust isn’t linear, but it is possible. Here’s how it can start:
Acknowledge the rupture – Don’t minimize or gaslight. Own it.
Get curious, not furious – What led to the breach? What was the unmet need?
Communicate boundaries – Rebuilding trust often requires new agreements.
Allow time – Regaining trust takes longer than breaking it. Be patient.
✋ How to Apologize Like a Grown-Up
A real apology is not “Sorry you feel that way.” Try this instead:
“I understand how my actions hurt you.”
“Here’s what I’ve learned, and here’s what I’ll do differently.”
“I value your trust, and I want to earn it back.”
Bonus tip: Show, don’t just tell. Consistent behavior speaks louder than even the most eloquent sorry.
💪 The Most Important Trust? Trusting Yourself.
Here’s the truth bomb: people are going to do what people do. You can’t control their choices—but you can build a solid foundation of self-trust.
When you know deep down that you can handle what life throws your way:
You’re less reactive and more reflective.
You live with more peace and less panic.
You listen to your gut—not your fear.
And you stop spinning your wheels trying to predict or prevent disappointment.
Because when you trust yourself, you stop bracing for betrayal and start living with openness.
Ready to build stronger trust—from the inside out? Let’s talk.
👉 Reach out here.
📚 Reference
Brown, B. (2015). Rising Strong. Spiegel & Grau.
